Making the Same Mistakes Over and Over

Why can I not get this right?  My wife asks me to do something and I forget, even if it is written down at the top of the list.  She gets mad at me and I deserve it.  I always seem to forget something.  I know I did a lot yesterday, but there is always that one thing and it is somewhat important.  I ask again, why can I get this right?

Here is another thing I do, when my wife and I are pressed for time, I still try to straighten up and organize the house in some way.  How have I not driven her crazy is beyond me.  If I were her and she acted like me, I would probably sent her to a special home for the clinically insane.  I am hard to live with and when I get focused on one thing, I tend to forget the rest.

She must love me, if she did not, she would have locked me away and thrown the key.  I am trying everyday to get this right.  I still make the same mistakes, but not as often, at least in my opinion, probably not my wife's.  I know I will go home today and apologize to her and she will say, "You are always sorry."  I will reply, "What else can I do?"  Well, I could not make those mistakes again and again.

Well here is a book on marriage that couples might find interesting.

Happy Valentine's Day

Yesterday was a good day.  I received a card and some candy from my wife in the morning, which was very nice.  I also got a happy Valentine's Day text during the day from her, which I reciprocated.  That night I got flowers and a card for my wife, that was good also.  Finally the day ended and I thought she was a sleep, so I decided to play some video games.  Yeah, that's when Happy Valentine's Day became not so happy.  I should not have done what I did.  My wife came out and she said, are you kidding, it's Valentine's Day and you want to spend time playing video games.  So she goes back to the room, locks the door and will not let me in.  Serves me right.  I should not have played, I should have spent time with her and maybe watched a movie.  Yay.  She is not mad at me anymore, but I did deserve the shut out.  Anyway, next time you guys entertain the idea of doing anything that does not include her on Valentine's Day, go to her really fast and give her a kiss and then spend time with her.  Trust me, I know.

Slip Sliding Away

You might ask me what the hell does this title mean?  It is very simple and too the point.
First you must always slip a compliment to your wife, no matter how your day has gone.  Slip in a, "You look great," or "You get more beautiful by the day."  Slip it in and never stop for anything.
Second thing, slide a small gift for no apparent reason.  Give something to her once and while, no matter how small or "cheap" it is, a gift is a gift.  Slide one in at least once a month.
Third and final thing to do, take her away, even if it is for the day.  Make her know that once in a while, she is the only person in the world for you.  Take her away and maybe there will be some slipping and sliding.
That's all for now.

Is this a Double Standard?

Now you all know I love my wife and I would do anything for her, but sometimes she baffles me.  Last night I told her that I met a guy from a roofing company who also cleans off snow from roofs.  I thought, hey why not have him do our garage.  Right now it has two to three feet of snow on it.  He said it would probably cost between 2 to 3 hundred dollars.  Well, when I suggested it, she said we cannot afford it.  At first I argued with her and she said we do not have the money.  I told her I would not get up there, our roof is too slanted and I do not want to fall and break my neck.  She said she would get up there and I told her no, because if I am afraid of falling, then I was also afraid for her safety.  I finally understood what she said about not being able to afford the roofing guys to go up there, so thought of another idea.  I suggested getting a roof rake and my friend Mike found one online at Home Depot for 40 dollars.
Now the plot thickens, she tells Mike, because I am at work, that she does not want to buy a roof rake.  He even tells her he will buy one this Friday, but she refuses.  Right now you are probably asking why I titled this blog post, "Is this a Double Standard?"  Well, before I went to bed at a client's house, because I work third shift sometimes, I reminded Mike to take out the garbage and recyclables.  My wife told him, she did not want him to do this, because it was too icy out.
It was too icy out on flat ground to take out the garbage and recyclables, but she thinks that she is going to get on a forty-five degree angle slanted roof with two to three feet thick of snow and shovel it off.  Good luck, anyway, this is one time I will have to listen to my own instincts and back my friend up.  I will let him buy a roof rake tomorrow and that will be the end.  The necessary good will out way the arguing with my wife when we use the rake and no one falls off to prove a point.

Listen to Me

1.  Listen to her
2.  Notice her
3.  Love her
4.  Be with her
5.  Show her
6.  Compliment her
7.  Go with her
8.  Take her
9.  Surprise her
10.  And last but not least, guide each other

Thank you.

Marriage is Sacred

"In order to make a good marriage even better, to ensure that a good marriage will last, or to save a failing one, people need to at least familiarize themselves with the facts about what long-lasting marriages have in common, and what marriages that end in divorce don't have. This is what John Gottman's The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work provides in an engaging and totally useful way.

Marriage Help from Dr. John M. Gottman

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work gives readers a road map. Readers will surely recognize their own behavior and that of their spouses. After reading the book they will understand which behaviors to nurture and which behaviors to put an end to." 
Lisa C. DeLuca on July 12, 2009 wrote this about Gottman's book on marriage.  I recommend reading this book, because it will help men to truly understand how to help and improve their marriage.  I have not read it yet, but I have heard many great reviews and I plan to get my hands on it.

Well, until next time, keep reading my other site www.educationandbeyond.org/welcome/ .

Giving the Man a Heads Up

Dear Guys,
          I have discovered three major rules that men should know that women or our significant others should tell us, but won't.
          First, if something bothers your second half, understand he or she will not tell you.  You must observe them and realize they do not like when you look at some "hot" girl or guy on the TV and say "wow."  This is not the best tactic and trust me you want to learn this as early as possible.
          Second, always compliment your significant other no matter if he or she believes it or not.  Trust me, they love hearing it from you, but they will never tell you that.  Once in a while, you might get a thank you, it is rare, but take the moment and savor it.
          Finally,  if you love this person, then try, and I mean try everyday to tell them at least once, that you love them.  Trust me, once a day is good and it is the least you can do.  Your significant other may say he or she does not need that everyday, but ignore that answer and say it anyway.  "I love you," is simple, and if you mean it, it will go a long way.
         Talk to you later and remember, check out my new website:  www.educationandbeyond.org/welcome/

I'm Back!

           Yes, I know it has been a long time since I entered my last entry in my blog.  I am back and I am doing much better than I was before the holidays.  I lost my way for a long time, but now I have direction and a goal.  I want to educate the future, the Next Gen.  I want to mentor them and collaborate with them.  I want the Next Gen to mentor me at the same time.  I want to learn and learn some more.
            I must reiterate that technology is a big factor in education today and beyond.  It is a factor that cannot be over looked.  I think that anyone who is in education should include a device like the one below.  I will be back tomorrow.  See ya soon!